OCD is not cool

I have to work Sunday, have a few text messages with Eric the Tall. Confirming. Yes.

I get to Stellar first. Order a Guinness. Relax and do some sketching. He arrives. Looks normal.

drinks/food: Pints, 2 each. Pizza, size medium, he takes leftovers home. Salads which are very important.

Topics of Conversation:

Stellar: he's never been here. I don't eat pizza much (I'm lactose intolerant, I don't tell him this) but I have been her before I met some women here for pizza and drinks about a year ago that I met on myspace. It's yummy.

Family: He doesn't talk to his. He's stories are entertaining, he's family is sort of arch conservative religious freak stories. He's entertaining.

Dating: How young can you go? Two of my last relationships were with men 8 years younger. I've been trying to date in my age group which doesn't work for me in Seattle.

Housemates: One of his is moving away and they are having a party at their house tonight. Mine is dating a man 16 years younger than her, long distance, who she hasn't met. My cut off is somewhere around 28 I think.

OCD: Starting with the fact that he can't get over the fact that some of his lettuce leaves fall onto the table. I think he's going to have a panic attack. He mentions at least 10 more times that he has OCD.

The date is over for me here.

We split the check, but he takes the pizza home.

We don't touch before we get into our cars and drive home.

I don't expect to hear from him.

Just another satistic

James Dean is cute. James Dean is Skinny. James Dean has on a pair of jeans and a blue hoody (little do I know this is what I will see him in every time I see him).

He is sweet.
He is sort of dull.

Drinks/Food: cocktails, 2 for each of us, it's happy hour! Appetisers, satay, the big platter of spices you wrap up (I can never remember what it's called), and dumplings. Yummy.

Topics:
Kids: he has a 4 year old daughter, not sure if he wants more. She's in preschool. I have a 2 year old niece, she's fabulous.

School: he's in full time at Community College, wants to transfer to UW I graduated in 1991 from UW.

Dating: he's not good at it (his words) I think I'm ok.

Living: he used to own a house but when his relationship went bad with his baby mama he sold it and fought for full time custody, which he won. He lives in his sister's basement and shares a room with his daughter. Yikes!!

He's very nice (not my favorite word, but what comes to mind.)
He's very cute.

We ask for the bill and he goes to make a call (see how his daughter is, she's got a cold) and I end up paying for it. Come on the man's on welfare! and it's only $40.
He's is mortified, I say no problem you pay next time.

We leave, there is a jazz festival happening, the streets are packed. We go for tea. He pays.
He's relaxed a bit. We talk about internet dating. I tell him this is my last try and then I'm giving up. He thanks me for going out with him, too sweet. He tells me he has no other option for dating because he doesn't want to go out with someone from school. I try to cheer him up telling him there are lots of options, moms of other kids at preschool for one. Anyway why am I trying to encourage this? Because he's not really my dating material. Might be a good fuck buddy.

It's 9:30 and he needs to go home a tuck in his daughter. I get a hug...
and a thank you text.

I hope we go out again. Nice is a good change.

phone sex

Can not happen before the date!! James Dean called and tried to go there, but it's so wrong. What if we are not at all attracted to each other? OK it's been almost a year since I last had sex, I will pretty much sleep with anyone who looks clean and can give me a compliment. But I can't do the phone sex.

Saturday better be fun.

I'm not lying

I have been honest about my age and said I am 40. I decide if I am to get a date I need to "send flirts" so I do. I have to record a voice mesage. Now I can send messages free to those who write me.

My friend Bryan tells me I should totally lie.
You don't look or act 40, You don't want to go out with men who are 40, that's too old.
His words...I agree, but I want to be truthful, at least at first.

James Dean is a 33year old single dad, he also goes to school full time. Has the first 3 weekends of the month free as his xgirlfriend takes her daughter. We IM, he seems sweet. It's not a free weekend. He needs a date...wants to meet on Saturday for drinks and dinner at Thai Ku, he'll get his sister to hang out with his daughter.

Eric the Tall is a 38 year old who lives with housemates and moved to Seattle last year. Some computer tech job. He likes to see live bands and drink beer (who doesn't?) We plan to meet on Sunday after I get off work at Stellar pizza.

Sounds good.

One more try at internet dating

So I had a few glasses of wine for dinner tonight and filled out a profile on The Stranger personnels. We shall see what happens.

I also signed up for a yoga class, let's see which I'm still doing in two months.